Ways to cope with stress and live happily!

1. Every problem has a solution and everyone has a problem- Everyone has problems. Literally everyone has problems, big or small. I have come across many articles and blogs telling how to cope with them and be happy. But there are some points I have not seen in many articles or maybe I didn’t come across articles having such points.

I would like to share those points with this piece of writing and I hope it will help those who are in need of it.

2. Avoid when you can- First thing first, many problems which we consider a big one are AVOIDABLE. Yes you read it right. many problems can be avoided in life but what do we do with them? we stick to them, keep on thinking about them and ruin our present for either past or for something which has no importance in life.
Example- break ups, or something “i should not have done”, “why someone commented on me?”, “why some kept garbage on my table?”, etc. The moment we start avoiding these things and start thinking about the things and people we HAVE in life, we feel rejuvenated, fresh and very much relieved.

3. Treasure what you HAVE- See what you have and not what you DON’T HAVE. Its right to be progressive in life but thinking about someone else’s palace, we should not ruin the peace and tranquility of our small but sweet home. Just look around. So many people don’t have many things that we have. Be thankful to the god if you believe in him or be thankful to your life for bestowing upon you things that you have.

Some people don’t have mother or father; some don’t have own house; some are not economically very strong; some don’t get to have an education; some don’t even have clothes to cover body and some do not even have basic necessities like water , transportation etc. But if we have anything mentioned above-even one- or anything alike; we should consider ourselves lucky because many people out there have nothing of them but still they are living happily or at least struggling with day to day life without complaining.

5. Learn to forgive- Ramayan, Gita, Quran, Bible- all the religious texts and all the religions teaches us to forgive others. Even if you do not believe in religion or god, just imagine how peaceful and serene life would be if you forgive others who did wrong to you.

Do not tolerate wrong acts but if you are losing your temper and mental peace just because you cant forgive someone in life, then try and forgive and you would definitely see a change in your life and will also feel a change within yourself.

6. Change your perception- Its the perception which makes us act or react in life in many situations. Problems are sometimes not as big as we think they are. Its just the perception in our minds which makes them big or small. Any problem might be as small as our assignments once were when we were in school but today they seem to be nothing.

Same way, all problems can be small if you have will power and you are optimistic. Remember the line from famous TV show-“Taarak Mehta Ka Ooltah Chashmah”- Problems to hain sabke paas, bas najariye ki hai baat.

7. Think big- We are humans, the greatest creation of nature; the greatest creation according to many religious texts. No problem can be bigger than our strength. We all are individuals, we have an individual identity and importance. Don’t think yourself to be less than anything or anyone, even if you have any disability- physical, mental, emotional or any other.

We are born with a motive and we all are potential winners of battles of life.

8. Problems are our best friends- Yes you read it right because they make us what we become. Remember a diamond needs to be polished and then it becomes precious. An arrow needs to be pulled BACK to go FAR. A ball goes higher only when it is thrown with greater force on ground. Milk needs to be churned to get butter and that too both clockwise and anti-clockwise.

Similarly we also need to have both goods and bads to have a nectar of life and to have a complete life.

9. Give happiness- Happiness is like shouting in a cave or in hills. The more we shout and that too in louder voice; the more it comes back with much intensity. Similarly if we give happiness to others-even small-it comes back to us in any other form and also much more than you gave.

Besides, it gives us the peace and mental satisfaction which we can’t buy with money.

10. Life gives second chance- We all get a second chance in life. Be it god, destiny or nature- they always provide us with a second chance. So there is no place in our life for pessimism or there is no need to think of our self as a loser.
No failure is ultimate, there is always a successful achievement hidden behind it.

11. Life means happiness- At last I would like to share that I have tried all these things in life and am still trying. I am not too old to see all the problems of life but I have seen ups and downs and that too major ones. I tried these ways when I faced depression and when I had chaos and tensions in life. But I feel I am blessed to come up with these points and I hope it will help the readers who need them and who practice them.

12. Be happy this moment…this moment is life- Do not forget that we are a part of this infinite creation and our problems can never be too big. Trust yourself and remember friends that YOU are- WE are- an important PART of this huge creation and we make this creation complete else we would not be here. Remember that this very moment is happiness, live this moment, it is a gift and that is probably the reason it is called a present. Be happy, live life. 🙂

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71 Comments Add yours

  1. Beautifully portrayed☺👍

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      Thanks a lot bro 😊

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  2. If only we could incorporate all of this in our lives.

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  3. samdfb1 says:

    Great post. Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      You’re welcome. My pleasure 😊😊😊

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      1. samdfb1 says:

        No problem. How’d you get so wise? 😉

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      2. Shekhar Srivastava says:

        Hahahahah just expressed what I felt 😉😉😉

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      3. samdfb1 says:

        Cool. All good. 😉

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  4. Imaobong says:

    This is a very helpful post
    Thanks☺

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      I’m really delighted that you found it useful 😊😊😊

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  5. Shekhar u have said it so beautifully. There is no happiness that one is searching, happiness is the way. Loved the points.

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      I’m extremely delighted that you liked the points I mentioned. Thanks😊😊😊

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  6. Thanks for these valuable suggestions

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      You’re welcome 😊 I’m glad you found them valuable. God bless you😊

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  7. Deesha says:

    Nice suggestions, but I may lose control if someone would keep garbage on my table” 😀

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      Hahaha I think that much would be okay Deesha😉😉

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  8. Intentergy says:

    Your points on forgiveness and giving are ones that I hold dear. For some reason there are times when giving or forgiving are so hard to do. I guess that is part of the human condition. Your point about problems being our friends is a unique one and so very true, whether we realize it or not. Thank you for these insights!

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      Yes you’re right. Thanks a lot for appreciating my views on these problems. I’m glad. 😊😊😊

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  9. kratzworld says:

    nice one.. 🙂 you’ve mentioned some very good points to ponder upon

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      I’m really grateful that you liked my point of view.Thanks a lot.😊😊😊

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      1. kratzworld says:

        you’re welcome 🙂

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      2. Shekhar Srivastava says:

        😊😊😊

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      Thanks a lot. I’m glad you found it helpful😊😊😊

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  10. bloggeray says:

    Some very wonderful and thoughtful words there. If we take a moment to understand even a few of them, our lives would be that much happier.

    Great post. Happy blogging.

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      I’m delighted that you found it worthy bro. You’re right about application of these points. God bless you. 😊😊😊

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  11. Canuck Carl says:

    Every point is excellent, the one that does jump out for me is forgiveness. As you shared, the world would be so peaceful and serene if everyone forgave, but also there is a dramatic change within ourselves when we do forgive.
    Thank you for sharing.

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      Yes it’s true it really is kind of an evolution as a human being. One can feel it.
      I’m glad you liked it. Thanks for appreciation😊

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  12. lilasmile says:

    I don’ read and speak english well but I give you a smile 🙂

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      Il vostro gesto gentile è soprattutto un caro lingua. 😊😊😊 Ho usato Google Traduttore di rispondere per voi especially😉😉😊😊😊 Dio vi benedica 😊

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      1. lilasmile says:

        Thank you for your kindless! Good evening 🙂

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      2. Shekhar Srivastava says:

        It was my pleasure. Good evening 😊😊😊

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  13. agersocialslow says:

    Italy men greets Indian wise! I’m reading Shantaram by Roberts but I read the City of Joy. Before the slums of Calcutta now lives in Bombay. Throughout India, but because the Olympics never win but you are billions of people! Thank

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  14. Sage advice – I agree with every point. Yet we all need to be reminded of this once in a while.

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      You’re right. Thanks😊

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  15. eliwoodbine says:

    This is wonderful. I’m writing a book with very similar themes to this at the moment. It’s nice to meet a likeminded person.

    Thanks for sharing,

    Eli

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      I’m glad to know that and super happy that we’re connected now via blogs. Best wishes for your book as I’ll be waiting to read it.
      God bless you Eli
      Shekhar 😊😊😊

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      1. eliwoodbine says:

        Thanks Shekhar. I really look forward to reading more from you. 🙂 stay in touch.

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  16. distancewide says:

    This is such a true suggestions! I should keep this in mind and I love giving happiness 🙂

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      I’m delighted to know that you found it so valuable 😊😊😊Thanks a ton. God bless you 😊

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      1. distancewide says:

        we are following your blog. it’s great 🙂

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      2. Shekhar Srivastava says:

        We? You mean you have team.

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      3. distancewide says:

        Yes, we are TWO 🙂

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      4. Shekhar Srivastava says:

        Okay dear. Best wishes to both of you.😊😊😊

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      5. distancewide says:

        same to you 😊😊😊
        we will stay in contact !

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      6. Shekhar Srivastava says:

        Sure😊

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      Thanks😊

      Like

  17. Thank you for follow, giving me a chance to read your blog. I’m following you also.

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      My pleasure😊

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  18. maureenrose7 says:

    I love every bit of this! 🙂

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      Thanks 😊

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  19. milliethom says:

    Some very valuable advice for us all in your post, Shekhar, and the images are excellent. I really like the quote about having a thousand reasons to smile. I imagine that, when people are stressed, or depressed, it can be hard to remember that sometimes.

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      I’m really delighted that you liked it so much Millie 😊 yes you’re right we get carried away in plight sometimes and forget these points.
      God bless you😊

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  20. spudbudette says:

    Number 6 – I do not understand the language hence the meaning of your TV show quote at the end. I did however enjoy your perspective. Number 8 really resonated for me and brought in mind what the apostle Paul wrote in Philippians chapter 4, verses 4 – 13, I think contentment is close to happiness. Thanks for the follow;)

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      Hey thanks for reading it. Actually it means that everyone has a problem but it’s just a matter of perception and the way we see the problem- positively or negatively.
      I’m really glad you liked my views and appreciated the post.
      I’m glad to follow your blog😉😉😉

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  21. Really an enlightening read…

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      Thanks😊

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  22. mywords331 says:

    Very nicely written….

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      Thanks 😊

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  23. Lovely post. Thanks for sharing these positive perspectives. Ps- Thanks for the follow,and I too am following your blog now. Glad I found it. 🙂

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      It was my pleasure dear.
      I’m happy to follow you. Thanks for following me😊 God bless you

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  24. A very nice post..especially third point 🙂

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      Thanks a lot. I’m happy you liked it 😊

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  25. heri says:

    Nice outlook on life ! Thanks

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      My pleasure😊

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  26. Daramemon says:

    Awesome piece of advice

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    1. Shekhar Srivastava says:

      Thanks a lot ☺

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  27. Yep!!! That’s is the thing I need to believe…..

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